The feeling of being controlled makes you feel ‘defeated’ because humans do not like to be controlled. It is in their fundamental nature to resist control and it is through resisting control that they assert their independence.
When we don’t listen to our emotions, it makes us feel ‘defeated’. This is because we feel like we are being controlled (not having our way) if we are not listening to our emotions. We feel like that way because we think our emotions is our will and not listening to our emotions is equivalent of not having our will and being controlled by somebody/some situation. Our emotions are only responses to the environment, they are not our will. Therefore, responding by emotions is not responding by your will; it is only your natural response to your environment. On the other hand, responding through discipline to achieve a goal is actually to act by ‘will’. Therefore, discipline is the actual form of acting by ‘will’.
But, we need energy to act. And emotions are the providers of energy. So, how can one act without emotions then if emotions are the provider of the necessary energy to act. This is where ‘will’ comes into play. Can ‘will’ provide the energy to act?
This implies that for ‘will’ to take over ’emotion’, will has to be:
a). an emotion itself or
b). an ability to channelize emotions or
c). creator of emotion
Only when it is one of the above can ‘will’ provide the energy to take action. So, let’s see which one it actually is.
‘Will’ is not an emotion simply because you cannot feel it.
‘Will’ is more of an ability to channelize your energy towards a goal that you want to achieve. Your emotion is a natural response; it may not be a response you want to act out depending on the goal you want to achieve.
But, does that mean ‘will’ leads to suppression or change of emotions. ‘Will’ changes emotions not by supressing them but by changing the beliefs underneath the ’emotions’ conflicting with the ‘will’.