Why we develop fight or flight or procrastinate even in simple situations in life?

Belonging is an essential biological need for all human beings. We are designed in such a way that if we feel left out from our desired ‘group’ or from a person we want to be connected with then we biologically with an uncontrollable intention go into a self-destructive state that might include a self-destructive narrative …

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The Procrastinator’s Instant Gratification

Procrastinators are addicted to instant gratification and hence most of the times they are onto YouTube videos, chats, reading unnecessary articles etc. that give instant gratification second to second. On the other hand, most tasks that we do in our life have a longer gratification cycle. Therefore, a procrastinator's subconscious mind sees these tasks as …

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A Procrastinator’s Vicious Cycle

Apart from laziness, fear of not being liked or respected is a major reason for procrastination. But, why are only some people are more driven by this fear? Fear of not being liked or respected <-- caused by---- 1.  procrastinator thinks that others think that he or she should know 2. procrastinator thinks that what he …

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The Gratification Cycle

My hypothesis is that: With the increased convenience and the fast pace of the world today, we want to be gratified instantly and our ability to wait for gratification is coming down. This is what I call as the gratification cycle and the cycle seems to become shorter and shorter. Our instant access to online …

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Conflict Management

In any situation, we have four choices of action: The right thing to do The easiest thing to do What you want to do (is more driven by emotions in the moment) The optimum thing to do (given the RAC) Many times we do what we want to do and hope that change will come. …

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What to do about low self-esteem?

This is an article from Psychology Today and the link to the original post is here. A woman responded anonymously to my most recent blog post by saying, “…I really have nothing to offer. I can’t see why anyone would want to marry me.” Then she goes on to add, “I’ve been treated like a …

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Procrastination As A Virtue For Creativity, Why It’s False

This is a post from Psychology Today and the link to the original article is here. What better way to attract readers than to say that up is down or in is out. When we challenge basic assumptions about the world, we attract that limited resource of attention. Moreover, when what we say is that …

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