Discipline equals Freedom

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Procrastination or Executive Function Fail?

Musings of an Aspie

There’s a spot on my kitchen floor, a little cluster of dried reddish drips. I don’t know what it is. If it’s from 3 days ago, it’s tomato sauce. If it’s been there longer . . .  who knows.

I’ve walked past it dozens of times. I look at it. It annoys me. I wonder how it got there. I wish it would go away. It doesn’t occur to me that I can make that happen.

The greasy smudgey fingerprints on the cabinet that I can only see in exactly the right light? The 8-inch long thread that’s been hanging off the bathroom rug since the last vacuuming? The dryer sheet on the laundry room floor? Same thing.

What is this? Why can I sit here and catalog all of these little annoyances yet I still do nothing about them? It’s not like fixing them would take a huge amount…

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Leaders Don’t Manage Time, They Manage Choices

This is an article I liked and found valuable on Psychology Today. The link to the original article is here. Over the last few weeks, we’ve looked at the four behaviors that differentiate a functional manager from a true leader.  As you know, I refer to these behaviors as the “Phenomenal Four,” which include: Cultivating …

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Empathy vs. Perspective

Empathy helps you understand what a prospective donor is feeling.  Perspective helps you understand why they are feeling it. Empathy keeps relationships on track. Empathy helps you remember that your supporter lives on the west coast while you are on Eastern time. Thanks to your empathy you’ll avoid calling her when you first get to the …

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How our Breathing Affects our Emotions

Most of us would like to have some control over our instantaneous emotions. However, we observe that it is extremely difficult to control your emotions. One can only channelize the energy of an emotion, but one cannot control the rise of the emotion itself. However, emotions and breathing are directly related and this link has …

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The Discipline of Finishing – Conor Neill

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The Vicious Cycle of Self-esteem and Self-discipline

This is a snippet from an article in Psychology Today. It may be true that we can do almost anything we set our mind to. But if our mind is our worst enemy, we simply may not be able to believe this otherwise inspiring (and motivating!) maxim. That is, whatever anxieties we may have about …

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The Struggles of Resting Confused Face

This post was written by Emma Lord on Bustle and the link to the original article is here. In the past year or so, we've heard a lot of people bemoaning the struggles of having "resting bitch face", which is totally understandable. I'd be annoyed too if someone thought I was side-eyeing them when all …

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Why you need discipline and why procrastinators are not disciplined?

You don't know what you don't know. When you are planning, you may assume you know everything that is going to happen. No, you don't. A procrastinator makes this assumption and delays the task. But, he always faces new kinds of delays and problems and hence cannot meet the deadline. You don't know what you …

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The Gratification Cycle

My hypothesis is that: With the increased convenience and the fast pace of the world today, we want to be gratified instantly and our ability to wait for gratification is coming down. This is what I call as the gratification cycle and the cycle seems to become shorter and shorter. Our instant access to online …

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Why is the current self wrong about the future self?

We always procrastinate our work telling that we will handle the work in future time. Basically, the current self of yours hands over the work to the future self. Your current self says I will have this pleasure now (delaying the work) and my future self will take the pain (doing the work). The current …

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Animal Self-consciousness

A Note On Assertiveness

The below post is influenced by the ideas of Dr. Jonice Webb, a leading psychologist and parental education trainer.As an individual, we think we know everything about ourselves. But, it can be said with a good degree of certainty that there is a lot that we don’t know about ourselves than what we think we know. …

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Delaying Gratification

The below article is highly influenced by the ideas of the popular Harvard psychiatrist Dr. Scott Peck.  Delaying Gratification is a process of scheduling the pain and pleasure of life in such a way as to enhance the pleasure by meeting and experiencing the pain first and getting it over with. It is the only …

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The invisible forces that drive your actions

Tony Robbins says that humans have six basic needs that sums up all the different types of motivations behind our actions. He says that these needs form the basis of every choice we make in life. The six core needs are: 1. Certainty/Comfort – the need to be safe and comfortable We all want comfort and much …

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Do you see the same red color that I see?

We all know that a painting or a word 'beautiful' can have a different subjective meaning for different people. But, what about colors? Assuming we both are not color blind and we have perfect vision, do you think we both see a particular color in the same way? Most people would say a thundering 'Yes' to …

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The Planning Fallacy and The Over-confidence Effect

Our brain is a tricky place to be because it is just full of biases. In my previous posts, I have written about some biases such as the confirmation bias, halo effect, outcome bias, and affective forecasting. Understanding these biases can help us recognize them in our daily lives and we may, in turn, provide ourselves an …

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Happiness and the Hedonic Treadmill

Photo: Shutterstock Imagine the excitement you had when you bought your first car. You were really happy of your new possession and you thought that it is going to add to your stack of happiness in life. But, soon you realized that the happiness fizzled out, and you are back to the same level of …

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Are you the person who you chose to be?

One of the questions that really intrigue me in life is: why do people behave the way they behave? This is an important question because behaviour is one of the key factors that separates one individual from another. So, what is it that influences human behaviour? Is your behaviour actually in your control? Some people say that how …

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Outcome Bias and Affective Forecasting

It happens in most of our lives that what looked like a bad event or a decision a few years back actually doesn't seem like that bad an event or a decision today. Similarly, what looked like a great decision or an event a few years back doesn't seem like that great a decision or …

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